Words of wisdom from women who have been through divorce can be hard to come by, especially when you’re already so overwhelmed by everything else going on in your life. Luckily, there are plenty of books written on the subject, and reading these books may help ease your transition through divorce with more grace and less stress. Take a look at these five books and see which one best suits your needs as you go through this difficult time in your life.
The Female Brain
A Breakthrough Understanding of How Women Think, Feel, and Live - Dr. Louann Brizendine is a neuropsychiatrist who specializes in women’s health issues. Her book The Female Brain shows how female brains work differently than male brains at both a physical and emotional level. As we learn more about brain differences between men and women, it becomes increasingly important to understand what these brain patterns mean for both genders.
The Courage to Heal
One of the first things women tell themselves after they’ve separated from their spouse is, I can do better. And as empowering as it may be to think so, divorcing a jerk isn’t easy—and it certainly isn’t rewarding. It takes strength and courage to leave a bad situation and build a new life on your own. Divorce and separation can be traumatizing. But psychotherapist Rhonda Findling is here to help you through that trauma in her book Don't Call That Man! Are you feeling heartbroken, obsessing over what was and wasn't said between your spouse before the dissolution of your marriage? This guidebook offers clear and easy-to-follow advice to help you get over those thoughts so you can get over your ex and move on with your life. Findling's book includes easy-to-follow exercises, charts that schedule time away from the telephone and much more.
The Emotionally Abused Woman
Overcoming Destructive Patterns and Reclaiming Yourself by Beverly Engel. This book is designed to help women who are feeling stuck in a violent relationship, whether it’s with their husband or boyfriend. It addresses both current abuse as well as childhood issues that may be coming up again during your current relationship. It also talks about what healthy love looks like, and how you can learn to move forward even when you feel trapped.
How Can I Forgive You? Healing the Hurts We Don't Deserve
Forgiving someone who’s hurt you is difficult. It's an emotional process, and one that may take years to come to terms with. However, if you keep these books by your side as you move forward, you might be able to forgive sooner rather than later. Since we don't always have a clear idea of what forgiveness actually entails, it can help to read about other people's experiences and find empathy from a safe distance. This book will get you started on forgiving more quickly; as more time passes, consider reading Elizabeth Gilbert's Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear and Getting Past Your Past.
Not Just Friends - Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity
Not Just Friends by Janis Abrahms Spring is a must-read if you’re in a relationship where your partner has been unfaithful. It offers honest, helpful advice and insight for healing after an affair—and it explains why affairs happen, so you can prevent them from happening again. Author Janis Abrahms Spring draws on her years of counseling experience to show you how to rebuild trust, learn about yourself and find peace with your decision to stay with or leave your partner. Her step-by-step approach will help you regain control of yourself and put things back together. You'll feel empowered as she teaches you how to move past pain and anger to develop new confidence in yourself and in your relationships.
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